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Fantasy Football is multiplying my shame!!!!!!

October 6, 2017 By John N. Robinson Leave a Comment

How do men experience shame?

To answer that question let’s set the table by using Brene’ Brown’s description of how men experience shame in her book Daring Greatly.

  • Shame is failure. At work. On the football field. In your marriage. In bed. With money. With your children. It doesn’t matter — shame is failure.
  • Shame is being wrong. Not doing it wrong, but feeling wrong.
  • Shame is a sense of being defective.
  • Shame happens when people think you’re soft. It’s degrading and shaming to be seen as anything but tough.
  • Revealing any weakness is shaming. Basically, shame is weakness.
  • Showing fear is shameful. You can’t show fear. You can’t be afraid —no matter what.
  • Shame is being seen as “the guy you can shove up against the lockers.”
  • Our worst fear is being criticized or ridiculed — either one of these is extremely shaming.
  • So how is shame showing up in Fantasy Football…

How do I experience shame in Fantasy Football?

  • If I lose then I feel like a failed for the week.
  • If my record is a losing record then I feel like I am failing.
  • If I pick the wrong player to start then I “feel” wrong.
  • If I feel like a loser then I have a sense of being a defective manager.
  • If fellow managers are heckling me then I feel soft if I don’t respond with heckling.
  • If I don’t know everything there is to know about the game of fantasy football then I’m considered weak.
  • If I am unsure or uncertain about anything related to the game then I’m showing fear — I can’t do that.
  • If I am the target for bullying then I am the guy you can shove up against the lockers.
  • And if I am being criticized or ridiculed then I feel inferior.

It’s time to quit playing Fantasy Football or time to play it in a shame-free way!?!?!

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